1. Distractions that keep us from special moments with important people.

Pay attention to the little things, because when you really miss someone you miss the little things the most, like just laughing together. Go for long walks. Indulge in great conversations. Count your mutual blessings. Let go for a little while and just be together.

2. Compulsive busyness.

Schedule time every day to not be busy. Have dedicated downtime — clear points in the day to reflect, rest, and recharge. Don’t fool yourself; you’re not so busy that you can’t afford a few minutes of sanity every day. Over the past decade, Marc and I have gradually learned to pay more attention to the beauty and practicality of living a simpler life. A life uncluttered by most of the default busyness people fill their lives with, leaving us with space for what’s truly meaningful. A life that isn’t constant rushing, worrying and stress, but instead contemplation, creation, and connection with the people and projects that matter most to us.

3. Thinking negatively about our capabilities.

Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there. And don’t wish away all your days waiting for better ones ahead. Just appreciate where you are. You’ve come a long way, and you’re still learning and growing. Be thankful for the lessons. Take them and make the best of things right now.

4. The needless drama around us.

A big part of maturity is learning to gracefully walk away from situations that threaten your peace of mind, self-respect, values, morals, or self-worth. Practice letting go gradually. Remind yourself that you don’t need to attend every argument you’re invited to. Give yourself the space to value your time, genuine relationships, and peace of mind, above all in the weeks ahead. Because little else will matter more in the long run.

5. The desire for everything we don’t have.

No, you won’t always get exactly what you want, but also remember that there are lots of people who will never have what you have right now. Some of the things you take for granted someone else is praying for. Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they already have. So remind yourself: You did not go to sleep hungry last night. You had a choice of what to wear today. You have access to clean drinking water. You have access to the internet. You can read. The secret to being grateful is no secret. You choose to be grateful, for the little things.

6. Comparing ourselves to everyone else.

Social comparison is a notorious thief of daily joy and progress. You could literally spend a lifetime worrying about what others have, but it wouldn’t get you anything worth having. Do your best to keep your comparison radar in check.

7. Obsessing over who we were or what we had in the past.

You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago. You’re always evolving and growing. Experiences don’t stop… that’s life, and it’s a privilege!

8. Worrying about old mistakes.

It’s OK if you mess up in life — that’s how you get wiser. Give yourself a break. Great things take time, and you’re getting there. Let your mistakes be your motivation, not your excuses. Decide right now that yesterday’s little mistakes and frustrations won’t get in your way today.

9. Worrying about what everyone thinks and says about us.

Don’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal. Rarely do people do things because of you; they do things because of them. You honestly can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is change how you react and who you choose to be around. And remember that one of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to like everyone, everyone doesn’t have to like us, and that’s perfectly OK. Because no matter how you live, someone will be disappointed. So just live your truth and be sure YOU aren’t the one who is disappointed in the end.

10. Self-deception.

Your life will improve only when you take small chances. And the first and most difficult chance you can take every day is to be honest with yourself.

11. A life path that doesn’t feel rewarding.

Life is to be enjoyed, not endured. When you truly believe in what you’re doing, it shows, and it pays in the long run. Success in life is for those who put there heart and soul into their daily efforts. And as you struggle, remember, it’s far better to be exhausted from little bits of effort and learning, than it is to be tired of doing absolutely nothing.

12. Everyone else’s definition of success and happiness.

You simply can’t base your idea of success and happiness on other people’s opinions and expectations. And likewise, don’t judge someone else just because they do it differently than you. The world is changed by your example, not by your opinions and judgments.

13. People who keep trying to manipulate us.

In many cases, what you allow is what will continue. Give as much as you can, but don’t allow yourself to be continuously used. Listen to others closely, but don’t lose your own voice in the process. Set some boundaries when you must! (Note: Marc and I discuss this in detail in the Boundaries & Expectations chapter of “1,000 Little Habits of Happy, Successful Relationships”.)

14. Doubting and second-guessing ourselves.

Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can, and that sometimes it takes an overwhelming series of little breakdowns to have an undeniable breakthrough. When in doubt just take the next small step. Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life. Truly, there’s a time and place for everything, and every step is necessary. Just do your best right now, and don’t force what’s not yet supposed to fit into your life. It will happen, when it’s time.

15. Thinking the perfect time will come.

Some people wait all day for 5pm, all week for Friday, all year for the holidays, all their lives for happiness. Don’t be one of them! You can’t always wait for the perfect moment. Sometimes you must dare to do it because life is too short to wonder what could have been, again and again.

16. Avoidance and temporary fixes.

You can’t change what you refuse to fully confront. You can’t find peace or progress by avoiding things. Deal with problems directly before they deal with your long-term happiness and potential. Build sustainable habits that move your life forward, one day at a time.

17. Resentment.

Kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness, nor forgiveness for acceptance. It’s about knowing that resentment is not on the path to long-term happiness.

18. Hateful thoughts and gestures.

Set an example. Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you — not because they are nice, but because you are. And do it for yourself too! What goes around comes around. No one has ever made themselves strong by showing how small someone else is.

19. Close-minded judgments.

The mind is like a parachute; it doesn’t work when it’s closed. So build friendships with people who aren’t your age. Spend time around those whose first language is different than your own. Get to know someone who doesn’t come from the same social class. Listen. Be humble and teachable. This is how you learn. This is how you see the world.

20. Trying to gain control over the uncontrollable.

You can’t calm the storm. What you can do is calm yourself, and the storm will eventually pass. The most powerful and practical changes happen when you decide to take control of what you do have power over, instead of craving control over what you don’t.

Now, it’s your turn!

Yes, it’s your turn to treat your limited time today with extra care. Because there’s a big difference between empty fatigue and gratifying exhaustion at the end of the day, and life is just too short to waste…But before you go, please leave Marc and me a comment below and let us know what you think of this post. Your feedback is important to us. ?Also, if you haven’t done so already, be sure to sign-up for our free newsletter to receive new articles like this in your inbox each week.